I have found porn on his phone twice in the past year and he says he was just messing around with some guys at work and making fun of it. You can certainly call him out on it if you like. I asked if it was because of the way I looked, he said no. It certainly wasn't the day I had in mind. If you're like me then all of the other suggestions that have been made are things you just naturally do.
Sex is just not all that important to me. What Dan Savage points out, and I think is a very good point, is it doesn't have to be about penis-vagina sex, I presume what you really want is a sexual kind of attention. What I feel for you, is that your wife is neglecting a fundamental way that you gain acceptance and self-worth. The simple fact is you are clueless as the what is oin her mind right now so do not make any statements that you consider absolute certain about. It has shattered my heart to think our marriage has come to this, so I do understand a bit about how you are feeling.
This will help you get to the underlying reason. One myth I'd like to debunk is that if a man isn't interested in sex, it means there's some sort of sexual dysfunction. Still no sex, still no touching, still no intimacy. These women will not have better marriages after they are caught going through peoples private property. I feel we are like two friends living together and looking after two small children.
After a couple of years i had had enough and just became withdrawn. Some men will not stop due to addiction. Most husbands have to beg their wives for sex, and yet I cannot get my husband to even consider the idea. I'm fully transparent with him because I simply need a loving touch. Anyway I will keep you posted. How about when she was so jealous when you added a girl on Facebook? So now we just never have sex. I never thought of the medication thing.
Second, you are doing all the chasing. She gets on facebook or goes online shopping or researches baby stuff or plays with her phone. There may be some form of sex addiction on his part complicating matters. Of course I looked at the texts that were left between him in the girl. Here are a few reasons why being intimate with your spouse is important for your well-being. We have four children together and we both work. He was a virgin when we met, though I was not.
Her first pregnancy was a natural birth and she recovered well. Remember that sexual desire is not the same as sexual attraction. Don't worry about how your husband looks, how you look, about how you don't get along, or about past mistakes he's made. We decided to talk about have a baby. He tells me he loves me, that he likes me, that he's being honest with me and that he can't live without me. The only thing he will do is watch movies with me and I can feel the ice block next to me. I feel unattractive and have no self confidence left.
Learn more about what she needs, learn more about what you need and what you guys as a team need. Statistically you both are in the right circumstances to cheat. If your wife was complaining that you never compliment her, and you continued to refuse to do so. A married couple is expected to be physically and emotionally intimate with each other, and specifically, a lack of physical intimacy can cause problems in the relationship, both emotional and legal. I don't know what to do anymore. I never reject my wife, even if I want to. Maybe a Gyneacologist, you can get a referral through your G.
Normally, we would suggest a night of mutual masturbation, literally showing your spouse what feels good in order to climax, but she has to feel comfortable enough with her body to do this—to have an orgasm in front of you. As long as there is no perception of pouting. The fact that she stops talking about how she feels and does not seem interested in discussing things with you is an indicator that things are not right. Don't keep asking her what 'is wrong', or are 'we ok'. We cannot control what our minds do at night. I also wonder whether she might not have realised your plans for mother's day and needed to see something more concrete happen - for example, did you buy her some nice breakfast ingredients beforehand given you couldn't make her breakfast? One 1 rule we've always lived by is that we never go to bed angry and always talk through any disagreements before the fester. If you've had a chance to tell him your feelings he probably knows them.
Nor are they particularly motivated to do much about it. Many people who are married masturbate, but mostly when they are in a hurry and need relief or their spouse or partner is not around. My wife has a low drive, but the last thing I would ever do is do anything that hints at an affair. Hi Steven, as previously mentioned it's obviously a delicate, complex subject. You're a warm, supportive husband. She likes to read, write and dance, in that order.
I explained to him that I saw it as cheating because the entire beginning of our relationship was online, and how would he feel if I were sexting or having phone sex with another man even today. It's a fairly well-known fact, for example, that most antidepressants dampen desire and the ability to be aroused. I would never even think about stopping my current regimen of testosterone and Cialis. Take a look at Your Brain on Porn. Hi Steven1, Your situation is difficult and it may be hard to get responses for fear of criticism.