Thank you for your input, it makes a lot of sense to me actually. You might be smiling by looking at some old pictures but he thinks negatively and takes your smile in wrong sense. Talk about the issues you have with the situation at hand, discuss how you feel about your exes and how you feel about him. When, she found out about the other women she looked the other way, he bought her some gifts and now, they claim they are in a relationship. Ten minutes later, for example, that feeling of being good enough will be gone and they are going to need more reassurance. Your self-imposed shitty life isn't on my loooooong list of things to give a shit about. Some people are flaky in all of their relationships, friendships or otherwise, but when it is always happening in a romantic relationship it causes a lot of problems.
I'm a big believer in the influence of primal urges and I find Shark's argument compelling. He wants to spend time only with you and for some reason if you avoid him. In fact if a man was solely motivated by passing on his genes it would be in his interest to sleep with many women. Sure, some are, and so are some blacks when it's the other way around. A huge reason of why I decided to let go was his ongoing jealousy.
Often knowing the underlying reasons is enough to have that light bulb moment. If you're frazzled, trying to juggle a thousand things, and don't have time to constantly assure him that you're in love with him, he'll be sad and depressed. Often it is because of an emotionally distructive childhood e. This is a terrible mindset that I have been working on getting out of, but if you two are in love then there is nothing to worry about. In your career it is avoiding a boring job versus chasing the job of your dreams. Not all of us are self-confident, in truth a majority of us have hidden insecurities and fears that rob us of our self-esteem and confidence.
If you happen to talk or smile generally with someone he would get so jealous that he starts creating scene out of it. Hopefully, the people around us lift us up and make us feel better about ourselves, but that isn't always the case. What you or I see as weak behavior, they see in an entirely different manner. If you are talking to someone on important issue or thing he would poke his nose in between to give weird solutions even though it is not related to him. Your food choices should be left up to you, and hopefully, your love respects that and keeps his mouth closed, so to speak, when it comes to what you eat. They might not admit to it, but it does happen commonly.
Of course there are varying degrees of insecurity and lack of confidence. Their so called friends are usually exploitative guys who get their work done by these nice guys. Most men seem to laugh these things off or just give in to what their partner wants them to wear. If she cheats or decides to leave then she will not continue his line. If you're a sympathetic person who feels the need to protect and champion the underdog, his tales of woe will tug at your heartstrings. It's one thing for a man to let you know he is allergic to something you made or has an aversion to something no matter who makes it , but comments about your actual skills can make you feel really insecure and a lot less likely to do something nice for him the next time.
He questions everything that I do. Of course there are the ones who think we're easy pickins because we're women, which makes me laugh every time they get put in their place by the strong, intelligent, amazing women here and run off with their tail between their legs. No two men are the same and I am absolutely certain, that were I to write an article assuming myself so intelligent as to understand what every insecure woman is and how she should be treated, that the responses would be both brutal and numerous. So he invests his emotions heavily in her. Sadly I recognise some of this in myself and also recognise it as insecure and though I appreciate it is not easy for a woman, it is not easy for me us either is there anything I can do to help this? Every race have insecure men, the reason you see more questions of white men being insecure is because there are more white men in this site.
You're his world, the center of his universe, his reason for living. Either way, this list will help you sort out what to do if you come across your guy having some issues with these insecurities! You must be feeling insecure and hurt with this kind of unexpected behavior but you simply cannot do anything about it. He smothers you with attention and gifts. Pretty much all guys are insecure, so just help assure him that there is nothing to worry about. Understanding why men show insecurity in relationships is the biggest hurdle to When you understand the psychology behind a behavior, it helps you to analyze yourself. That's not a bad thing unless you think it is.
He follows you and always knows what you are up to. He simply believes in his mind that all other males around the world want to date his girlfriend. He needs to no help in that respect. Try to get him to realize this and start working on self-love! Example 2: went to a Halloween party with some friends when I returned home I showed him the pictures we took that night on my iPhone, one picture was of two friends and some random dude from the party I accidentally scrolled past the pic to many times after I had showed him it and he went bonkers again said I must like the guy in the pic cause I showed him it 2 times. Check out this for a classic example. Instead, he feels the need to portray that much more confidence, even if he is not feeling it — just so that, not even for a moment, his insecurities do not show through. I truly wonder if men actually think about what they say and type out.