I would just like to add something that changed my life — in case it would be useful to others. Although it may be obvious to many of us, it is important to mention that not all of us have healthy minds — i. Too often we needlessly distract ourselves with anything and everything: food, booze, shopping, television, tabloid news, online social networks, video games, cell phones, iPods, etc. I can actually reminisce and laugh at my pain. Serenity prayer: 1 I can not change other humans. Finding out that there was a reason for the way I was, that the way my brain was wired was something I just had to accept and work around was, for as corny as it sounds, the first day of the rest of my life. You can choose to be happy or you will choose to be miserable.
I just posted our latest article. I hope it contributed something to the discussion. And everyone is capable of being happy. Its true I do not love myself the way I should. Is all this pain worth it though? This is a wonderful list and the comments were really great especially that of Julia Dennis.
When you are able to sharpen your picture of the positive, blur out the negative, and fine-focus on positive details, you have found your happiness again. For me, happiness is a complex thing to obtain. The bottom line is that we are all addicted to avoiding ourselves. There are of course exceptions like résumés, job interviews, competitions, etc. Believe me there were times in the past when a therapist had set me three tasks to achieve in a day — such as washing my hair. Thanks for sharing this amazing advices. Please give me some advice or just motivational words.
I have read a number of your posts before but this one really speaks to me. We can enjoy each and every moment of our life. One of the worst things that unhappy people do is constantly compare themselves to others. Every single point listed in this post described the person that I was. Acknowledging this addiction is the first step to healing it. Wisdom The Classic version: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change others the courage to change the things I can myself And the wisdom to know the difference.
But what I can sense is that this was below the surface all along. Helping anybody around us without anything in return spreads love across. I used to get out of responsibility by not caring much about the benefits of it. I feel as if we have put a halt on our life, sometimes I feel that we are truely doing the right thing, and other times I feel as if we are being held back. It is actually a series of choices a person must constantly make. I can always count on the two of you to say it simple and clear.
Tolle points out, the past was always now, and the future will eventually be now. So many times my default setting is set to negative simply from former conditioning, and I allow these negative thoughts to march into my mind and take over. I can honestly say that over the past 15 years, instead of feeling that in my deeper core is a place of despair, this has been replaced by my inner core being a place bubbling with happiness — to the extent that I cannot help smiling walking down the street just because the sun is shining! Yet what has comforted me a lot is solitude. I have made my own job in life by following my passion — I am an artist, teach art and organize arts events for 5000 people. These things are inherently risky.
For those who have been medically diagnosed with depression, or fear that they might be struggle with such an illness, I recommend seeing a medical professional who can further assist you. One of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin — to just be right here, right now, regardless of where we are. Complaining and passing the buck attitude leads to many other reasons of unhappiness mentioned in this article. This is something we all struggle with sometimes. Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, on the other hand, is for those who are confident enough to stand on their own two legs and move on. All these little parts of the machine, constantly working — sometimes forcing you to struggle, and sometimes making sure you end up exactly in the right place at the right time. Honestly, I think some people prefer to be unhappy.
Of the points you mention, I think the most valuable to me is living in the present moment — because that is all we really have. We can be so many things, an idea to which this article alludes to, but we can only be ourselves right now, too. It became a source of self reflection. Believing my negative thoughts without investigating their validity keeps me from happiness. I use art as expression to motivate and inspire others.
Remember, every worthwhile venture in life — intimate love, friendship, a new business, etc. I retreated into an unsocial loner who wanted to take part in what was going on and be popular, but I was scared of the attention. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself. Surrender 2 I have the ultimate power to change myself. It is not easy, but you can do it.
And although many of these people are afraid to admit it, a vast majority of their unhappiness stems from their own beliefs and behaviors. Each point listed above kept my spirit chained and happiness never lasted for very long. I am an orphan so one can imagine how difficult it was to find self respect, to stop begging for live from people who abused me, used me and abandoned me. Furthermore, I have found that what aggravates me most about others are things that I really need to work on in my own life. It has been a joy to read your post and all the comments above. Nothing empowers your ability to heal and grow as much as your love and forgiveness.