Take your time to explore her upper thighs and the area around her vagina first, to help her get aroused. A woman's mount, meanwhile, is the center of the pubic bone, where there is a slight cradle into which your mount naturally fits. While you need a happy medium between hard and soft, fast and slow, suction and licking, what she needs is a balancing act, too. Moreover, it makes it far easier to broach the topic of oral sex when you have a history of open and honest sexual discussions. Why does internal stimulation work for some women? You'll love to hear her go crazy.
Asking consent doesn't mean killing the mood or stopping sex in its tracks -- you can easily make it a part of foreplay or light dirty talk ex. Because you're going more behind the scenes. You've said your piece, and she's said hers, and there is no need to start pushing it now. There is no one right way of having vaginal sex, but there are a few things that you should think about before you do it. Start off softly, using a relaxed tongue to make slow movements and work up to faster movements with a firmer, pointed tongue. This is a great way to not only put her at ease, but slowly incorporate new things into your shared sex life without making her initiate everything. Neat freaks need not apply.
You'll both be more willing to experiment, and you can slowly work up to longer or more intimate acts without the pressure of one person doing all of the work. Without complete sexual trust, these activities could result in her feeling a great deal of anxiety, helplessness, and discomfort. It's certainly possible, if you study up. Maybe she'd like a little more grooming or manscaping or would prefer if you both showered together beforehand to clean up. You can research different toys and try them out to see what kinds work for you.
Without complete sexual trust, these activities could result in her feeling a great deal of anxiety, helplessness, and discomfort. A vulva is not a Rubix cube, but that could blow your mind. There are classic vibrating wands and non-vibrating wand made of silicone; some with girthier heads and some with smooth heads; there are even wands made of glass or stainless steel. Oral sex can be scary for some woman. Kiss all over each other's bodies, getting comfortable with every inch of each other. It doesn't take much to go down on her the right way and to have her screaming your name. This will help her get out of her head and release any tension that might prevent her from finishing.
For Sarah and for most women, their past oral experiences always resulted in a guy nodding to his member, demanding a tit-for-tat. When you get too excited, you lose a sense of what you are doing and you start fumbling around. While it's true that women actively pursue a good time, performing oral sex is not the act of martyrdom some would have you believe. If something goofy happens, like you fall off the bed somehow, don't be afraid to laugh -- it won't kill the mood. So many women and gender-nonconforming people forget that yes, we are also deserving of pleasure. Do what comes naturally and feels good - being slow and gentle is a good idea to start with so you can make sure you are both comfortable. Just like the tip of you, the tip of her is very sensitive, too.
The most sensitive part of the vagina for a woman is the clitoris, which has more than 8,000 nerve endings. Moreover, it makes it far easier to broach the topic of oral sex when you have a history of open and honest sexual discussions. Whatever her reasons or ideas, you don't know until you ask. The things vibrators can do these days are simply amazing: multiple speeds, multiple pulsation patterns, suction vibrators, oral-sex-simulating vibrators, dual-prong vibrators. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't enjoy it and feel comfortable as well you absolutely should! And maybe even help you with the maneuvering once she sees how amazing the different techniques feel when combined. Even if she's wet down there, her physical arousal may not be indicative of the psychological arousal she is — or isn't — feeling. Things she knows she loves? Figure out if there were some things she can do without, and be sure to keep it light and laugh-filled.
All question askers will remain anonymous on the site. If you dismiss her concerns and only focus on your desires, you're not putting her at ease. No two female bodies are the same. What else can you do down there? When she's ready, she'll initiate things herself. Remember to pay attention to her, not yourself, for the best experience. She needs to feel completely safe.
This can help her start to find her comfort level and keep the conversation alive and find a level of compromise. This raises your hip just a bit so you can add some movement to aid in his stroking. This is a great way to not only put her at ease, but slowly incorporate new things into your shared sex life without making her initiate everything. Kiss all over each other's bodies, getting comfortable with every inch of each other. It can help to avoid thinking of oral sex as just a build-up or foreplay to something else — it can be the prequel, the main event and the sequel all at once. Oral sex for women is a completely different beast than it is for men.