In various cultures, older men and younger women often seek one another for sexual or marital relationships. My family however is not supportive in the least. We have such a great connection. That could be a big factor to her reaction but still…im scared of her threat of telling on me to my mother… I could see myself having a family with him too. He has no time for me As I am sure that he is not doing any double timing with me but ya every time he is getting frustrated and irritated with his work load. No offense to younger women but I just fail to see how they are going to understand my needs the way a woman more my age would. For now I am just enjoying the love we have together.
Many questions also ethical issue and was my feelings beyond romance. That stuff happens to other people right? We married when I was 24 and he was 41, first and only marriage for us both! Our maturity levels are similar and even his friends have commented that we look good together. It is paralysing and debilitating and will sap your inner strength and feelings of self worth. You met that need and she should know why so how could she be surprised. I never ever thought in a million years this would happen. What if he ages and I no longer find him attractive that my eyes start to wander? My parent is really strict.
I loved his maturity, financial stability bt ad happy as he made me but sometimes he was more of my father than bf. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Like a bit later on for the younger one I suppose. I'm speaking of a real-life observation. My mom is old fashioned but young and hip and has an opinion about everything.
Making it work is really about having enough in common to bond, enough difference to learn from each other, and similar views on partnerships. I would hate it if he stayed with me out of concern or started seeing a younger woman behind my back. She says she accepts it but sometimes she seems to sabotage me! You and her need to have the same core values and long term outlook. I believe that sharing underlying values is more important than similarity of age. Reality is, not everyone agrees with age difference.
I am very mindful of there feelings. Somehow by the grace of God i was lucky and am privileged to meet a beautiful,kind , understanding and loving woman. But he has consistently reassured me that we will work. He is very good to me. Of course, these are differences that can drive a wedge between any couple regardless of age.
I cant live with out her. Will be getting engaged by December. There is an age gap of 13 years between myself and this man. No matter what happen in the future, we should share it together. She desperately tried to keep the relationship going and called me and Facebooked me for months, but I stuck to my decision and moved on. It sounds like you have someone that loves you, and if you truly love him, then be with him.
Now I know how gays had it before it was accepted. However, a new study from Emory University in Atlanta found that the best age gap is no more than a year. He has a heart issue with a valve replacement. We live one day at a time rather than fretting over what might happen to either of us over the course of our life together. At your age dating for a few years would be a great idea just to make sure. If you are under 18 I suggest you wait — see how things go and take it slow… you will change quickly over the next decade and making life decisions now can be very tricky. And it colours everything like nothing else; the thinking being that if you've been misled in one area, what's the likelihood it won't happen in others and at other times.
It is terrible to be punished for true love! If your parents are supportive they would understand, and support you. I dated around a little and then became happy having an independent life… Then this happens! This is so distressing and I am resenting him so much but he needs me and I would feel guilty to end this. Indeed, a showed that most Americans consider love 88 percent , commitment 81 percent , and companionship 76 percent as important reasons for marrying—and these have very little to do with age. Love in Tinseltown doesn't see numbers, just all the feel-good, bubbly things that come with being in a nice relationship. I will say my mother same age as my partner when I first told her I had fallen for my fiance she was my friend first was not too thrilled. If you would like to consult with mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, , and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area.
Music differences, least of our worries! It seems to me that people criticize young man-older woman just as much. But it all depens on how mature you both are and how you think and how well you get along. Its becoming hard and stressful trying to balance to the lives I now live. And in him I found a man that challenges me, makes me laugh, a man of passion…. We get along great and have a lot on common but feel frustrated with this impossible love. Thing is I am scared that because he is older he would just know how to talk to girls and everything.
It is not good for you to be feeling fear and getting suspicious and checking his phone etc. We were pregnant on accident a month after we got engaged in 2012, but our baby ended up having something called Anencephaly which is 100% fatal, we are now trying again for a baby. Should your age-gap relationship become long-term, you might consult a financial advisor for a plan that will support both partners. Using the same pathogen-stress model, there is a lower prevalence of disease in these economically developed areas, and therefore a reduced stress on reproduction for survival. In my mind I say yes because we have talked about certain stuff like thinking about what it would be like if we lived with each other and so on. Or is this something you secretly worry about? I really love him so much.